Confidence is everything in the dating game. It’s everything in courting a woman. As a good friend once said, “No chick likes a soft cock.” And that’s true. We spend way too much time strategising, contemplating, then regretting lost opportunities. The guy who gets the girl is the one who asks. Just like the salesperson who gets the order … More Let Go of Your Introversion
FEMALE FEATURE Sybarite is our Features Writer from London, UK It started after a few too many drinks on a school night. We were colleagues. Newfangled friends. Out for a “stitch and bitch” session after a demanding day at work. A South African guy was chatting me up in an old man’s pub you wouldn’t … More On the Road. On the Job.
I blamed everything on her conservative Anglican upbringing. “We’re the boring one’s,” she’d often say. Apparently, the Pentecostals are the ones who rock out to God. Whatever. She wasn’t wrong. She was boring. Her appeal was odd, much like her lifestyle. But for a while, she was exactly what I needed: someone safe. I’d just … More The Church of Modern Day Spinsters
There is no human jurisdiction on the mind. We are morally, ethically and lawfully bound by rules in society. However, inside ourselves, our thoughts are not seen or heard without confession. Throughout history, and particularly in religious brethren, the idea of perverse sexual thoughts and acts have been widely condemned. But what if the thoughts are … More The Normalcy of Perverse Thoughts
FEATURE – BOOK REVIEW Editor’s Pick What a fool believes, he sees. Jesse Fink, author of LAID BARE: One Man’s Story of Sex, Love and Other Disorders was a fool. A fool for love for really quite a long time. In truth, he probably always will be. And after much soul searching – through the … More LAID BARE: Review
You’re apprehensive as all hell, right? Don’t worry. It’s normal. Be prepared, though, for some seriously interesting shit to happen to you. I’m talking about everything from women pissing in the park to asking you to fuck them in the arse on the first date. No word of a lie, it’s happened to me. Those … More How to Survive Online Dating
I have been lucky enough to have lived in several different countries and been exposed to a plethora of different cultures. I am by no means an expert, but I feel I can impart the following knowledge with the benefit of experience and my catalogue of friends, acquaintances and random idiots. Here it goes: Don’t … More Word to the Wise
It was during the usual Sunday night weekend post-mortem, sitting with a few cans of problem-solver when we realised we needed a holiday. We were a tight group of mates, all in our 20s and were getting too old for Balearic package holidays. Our other mates were settled down and spent their holidays stretched out … More Live It Up and Love It Up, Amigo!
Things were going really well with Ginger. I had met her parents and visited the family home, staying in her bed, while she slept downstairs (they were a good Catholic family). I had been her date at a physiotherapy ball. I had worn a borrowed tuxedo; she had worn a long silk skirt and a … More Ginger Chronicles: Part 2 – Pink Notepaper
People go to another city where nobody knows them, or knows their family. They don’t know about the time you called your teacher “Mum”, or the time you drank a two litre bottle of cider in the park and “had an accident”. You can change your accent, or shake off unwanted nicknames. It was Boxing … More A Dreaded Evening
We met online. I had decided that from now on, I would only meet for coffee on the first date. As my best mate says, “It’s expensive being a gentleman.” No more fancy bars and cocktails with fairy floss. A simple coffee and a chat to see if she has personality was my new game … More And Then Came the Tempest
FEMALE FEATURE Sybarite is our Features Writer from London, UK On a breezy Friday night in London, two best friends meet for drinks to celebrate our friend’s 30th at a high-class private club in Mayfair. Non-hookers welcomed. Obviously. Obligatory birthday pleasantries out of the way, we acquainted ourselves with couple after couple, Single Boring Male after … More Who Said a Woman Can’t Have Sex Like a Man?